“I am firstly a mother and grandmother and I have spent most of my working life as a youth worker and now, a carer. Working across many different roles from Education Welfare Officer to Project Worker to Project Manager and as part of a youth offending team.
Therefore, it would be safe to say I am very passionate about helping and guiding young people so they can be the best that they can.
Why did I become a foster carer?
I enjoy being a Mum. It’s a tough job with no instruction book but very rewarding.
For a few years I have been working with Love146 as a carer and I feel very supported by them in a way you would feel with your family, cared for, helped, understood, and pushed but always in the best of ways.
In my experience as a carer, in the first two months everything is about settling in and getting a feel for each other. Your house is not your own any more you will have social workers, police, interpreters, and other professionals, coming and going.
“Just smile, get in lots of cake and coffee, and enjoy, it’s worth it in the long run.”
A good foundation with no misunderstandings goes a long way. You will need to be part of lots of meetings and take your young person to different appointments, but it does calm down in time.
When everyone settles into a routine, you can really open your heart and home to your young person.
I consider my young person as one of my children. I care for him as if he was my own. And I hope if any of my family are in a squeeze someone else will be the same with them.
I have a few tips that that I was given by Love146, that I think will guide you on your path as a carer.
- Take things one day at a time
- Consider your home is now everyone’s home
- Be patient
- Use google translate just in case
- Laugh lots of laughter
- Play games
- Try new activities
- Don’t be afraid to voice your concerns or ask questions
- Be positive
- And always look at things from all angles
I now look at our boy ten months into the placement, our boy who is absolutely part of the family to the point our grandchildren consider him as an uncle and involve him in their games. And he is more than happy to sit and play with them.
Our boy can stay with us as long as he likes, and so far, he says he is not going anywhere.
If you’re a carer, foster carer or think you could be, why not get in touch and learn more about the work we do.